I’m starting to feel a little stupid for starting this. You know how sometimes you’ll misplace something, like say your car keys, and you swear you –just- saw them a moment ago but now you’ve no idea where they might have gone? That’s what’s happening here. I swear beyond a shadow of a doubt that these spiritual memes used to show up on my feed neck-deep every day, but for some reason, now that I’m looking for them they’re nowhere to be found. No matter, we can once more delve into the back-catalog for some golden oldies; gives me a chance to do another theme round. Let’s look at happiness and judgement. Tenets for Wednesday, July 15th 2015
- Your job isn’t to judge. Your job isn’t to figure out if someone deserves something or decide who is right or wrong. Your job is to lift the broken, and heal the hurting.
Interpretation: This sounds pretty self-explanatory on the first go around so we might need to dissect it a bit. Firstly, “Your job isn’t to judge.” I wasn’t aware I had a job, but if that’s not it, then how do I go about making decisions? Judgement is integral to the decision making process. Making judgements is the only way we, as human beings, can get through a day without being completely paralyzed by indecision. How do I know what time to wake up? What pants to wear? The best route to take to get to work? What kind of coffee I want? Those are all judgement calls. Admittedly, that’s a little broader (huh, “broader” is a word. Who knew?) than the scope of this particular tenet though. Here we’re talking about people as stated in the second sentence: “Your job isn’t to figure out if someone deserves something or decide who is right or wrong.” Also not included in my job description is problem solving or conflict resolution. I don’t decide who needs what or who is in the right or in the wrong in any given situation. My job is not to seek out inequality as all people, regardless of actions or intentions are equally qualified for… what? “Your job is to lift the broken, and heal the hurting.” Ah, here we go; the meat of it. Lift the broken. Heal the hurting. There is no shortage of broken or hurting in this world, and if I am not to judge or quantify their need I must treat each individual equally. Let’s say, hypothetically, I witness a car accident. A man talking on his cell phone in his new Ferrari hits a pedestrian in a crosswalk because he isn’t paying attention. One man hurts, financially, because he has dented his new car; another man hurts, physically, because he has dented his skull. These men are equals and I must aid them both in equal measure… Or do I? How do I decide if I am not to judge? I am told that healing the hurt is part of my job, but how am I to decide whether either of these men deserve my help? That is, specifically, outside of my jurisdiction. Looks like we’re back to “paralyzed by indecision.”
- No one has the right to judge you, because no one really knows what you have been through. They might have heard the stories, but they didn’t feel what you felt in your heart.
Interpretation: Now let’s flip it. Just as I am not to judge others, no one has the right to cast judgement upon me. So, at least I don’t have to worry about other casting blame upon me for not helping either one of those guys. I mean, sure, they may have heard the story, but none of them know that I really, really wanted to help, but there was no way for me to determine who deserved it. This reminds me of the old adage; “The road to Hell is pave with good intentions.” No one believes they are the bad guy. Everyone acts with what they believe to be the best of intentions. Shit, Hitler thought he was doing the world a favor (Hi, Godwin!). I don’t think I need to extrapolate any further with this one.
- Some people create their own rain clouds, and then complain when it starts to rain.
Interpretation: This is a judgement. While it doesn’t explicitly say that these folks who cause their own problems, or carry around their own sad baggage are undeserving of your concern; it’s certainly implied. In the context of today’s first two tenets, this should be irrelevant. It doesn’t matter how or why this person is hurting, you have to help them. And when they are hurting again in an hour, you help them. And the next day, you help them. This person is your job; as are all those like them. It is up to you to devote all your time and energy to each and every raincloud because that’s your job.
- You are responsible for your own happiness. If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed.
Interpretation: While I would normally tend to agree with this one; when grouped alongside the last three it just becomes sad. This would be my personal raincloud if I bought into Jane’s Philosophy. I would carry about this cloud of happiness I wish I had time to seek but am unable to because I’ve given all my time and money and energy to those poor hurting souls. Surely one of them might reciprocate and provide me with a balm for my hurt. But I can’t expect that. I’m responsible for my own happiness. I am also responsible for everyone else’s. Who’s got time for all of that?
- If you believe you deserve better you will create better for yourself.
Interpretation: Unfortunately, I, just another of the great many hurting “someone’s” out there have no way of knowing if I deserve better. How can I possibly deserve better if I can’t even do my job? But, that’s a judgement, let’s just pretend I believe I deserve better. Now I will create better… Out of what? I’ve given all my money and resources to the great unwashed masses. I haven’t eaten in weeks and my withered frame is on the verge of collapse. Surely someone will help me, I’ve been so helpful. But I can’t expect that, that will only lead to disappointment. I am responsible for my own happiness. Today’s Lesson: Think I’m going to just curl up under my private raincloud, naked and alone. I’ve done my job. I’ve given everything to everyone who wanted it. It wasn’t up to me to decide who deserved what, so I gave upon request. Maybe someone will give me a coat, or a bite to eat to stave off exposure or starvation, but if they don’t that’s fine. I can’t expect that. That’s the path to disappointment. No I’ll just lie here, dream my broken dreams, and die content in a job well done… happy. This philosophy sucks.